Use internet to meet women!? hell yeah, here's why and how!

First thing is this, I would never REPLACE infield pick up with meeting women online. But there is no reason not to learn and use technology to supplement your tool belt for meeting women.You cant meet women and set up dates any where in the world laying in your bed sick, or lounging around your house in your boxers. However, why not use that time to send out a few messages and set up a few dates!

The problem is most guys, even guys that are good with picking up women in person, do not use the right technique to try and meet women from online social networking sites. I am going to give you a brief background as to why I support online dating so adamantly as well as some quick start pointers at the end of this post for you to jump start your success with meeting women online.

A friend recently asked me: So why should I try to meet women online when I am fine meeting in person?

My reply: Don’t meet women online instead of in person, ALSO meet women online.

When Race (My best friend and co owner of SociaRockstar.net with me)moved out to las vegas last year he knew nobody in the state except me. So we decided to do a little social experiment. I had already been meeting women off myspace for 2 years or so and had a pretty effective system, so we decided to create an entirely new social circle entirely from people we met online. Within the first week we had so many girls lined up for ‘first dates’ that we had to work in a new and more effective way to meet them all (if this is the problems the guys in the community are talking about then i understand). We decided to have a weekly get-together at our house and have them all meet us there. So Race and I, the only two guys there, had to entertain 15-25 girls in our home of whom we had all just met for the first time. This was so effective we ended up doing it 2-3 times a week and averaged about 20 girls (new girls), each time. The best part was using the browse feature on myspace, we could filter out the exact type of girl we wanted for each party. If we wanted all brunettes we would search brunette. If we wanted all girls named Nicole we would filter/search that way.

Within the first two months, we literally had met so many women from MySpace and Facebook, we started to notice we had numbers in our inbox we hadn’t even gotten around to. The best part was each little ‘get together’ we had was at our home, where these girls were meeting us for the first time, and each person brought over something to contribute to the party.. we never paid out of pocket. We even had a house warming party and a few of the girls (we had never met) brought us house warming gifts. Another great advantage of using social networking sites is that it is a great tool to help a new person learn how to correctly build attraction, tell stories, use roleplaying & games properly. Meeting women from sites like Facebook, and Myspace is a great slowed down version of infield pickup. The guy using this dating technique will have more time to respond and formulate the RIGHT response to each message. There is literally no “fear of rejection” since you usually message a girl and forget about it. And my favorite point is that when the girl shows up to meet you, she already has acknowledged that she is attracted to you, and is HOPING that you are attracted to her…Infield pickup will never be replaced by any new means of dating systems but why not use the technology to your advantage? Don’t be stuck riding horses just cause you dont see any point in riding in a car.

3 Steps to instantly improve your online game

Profile: first you have to set up your profile correctly (most are mainly for myspace)

• use contrasting colors so all the text is visible
• Pick 15 good pictures of you doing something different in each one (having fun with friends, with two girls on your arm, dressed in a ridiculous costume/outfit, being in control-doing anything where all the attention is obviously on you, with your family, etc. And for god’s sake try to look happy and fun by smiling or laughing in some of the pictures .
• Embed a music player(projectplaylist.com) and put a diversity of songs you like: fun songs, goofy songs, currently popular songs, Disney songs, etc.
• Use very few words in your info/about me section. Rather than 2 paragraphs that are boring about what your life journey is or how cool you are, use a qualifying statement and embed your pictures directly into your profile. This way all a girl has to do is scroll down your page to get a snapshot of who you are. Your pictures will display more about you than your text ever will.
• Get plenty of comments from hot girls to give you more social proof.To achieve this message about 30 or so hot women in a DIFFERENT AREA and just tell them this:
  

  “Hey, my ex and I just broke up and she is stalking my profile… could ya send me a fun/sexy comment to make her a little jealous? Thanks
  -{your name}”

  You will get plenty of comments from that.

• Embed tv show Flyers and movie posters (only 2 or 3 each) to show what you like. It is good to include a movie like dirty dancing, juno, or the notebook etc as well as some other movies that are actually your favorite. The point is just to show diversity and humor.

Opening Message

The anatomy of a good opener is:

• Use a subject that stands out and creates curiosity so she is more likely to read it.
• Show no interest in her per se (there are effective direct approaches as well but they are advanced and we cover them in other areas)
• Keep it short.
• Use statements or questions that require her to seek more info from you.

Here are 2 examples of good openers:

Subject: I’m not sure but…

Body:I think you know my friend-{your name or screen name}

Note: You are not putting her off by hitting on her and she has to respond to ask who the friend is.

Subject: Caught you!Body:Hey you are that girl who molested me the other night at [local club/bar/festival] the other night…naughty naughty… haha :)-{your name or screen name}

Note: Now she has to respond to dispute her being at the club, but lets her also know that you were out at a club and women were seeking you.

The ultimate goal is only to get her initial response. Once she responds to you, you can begin building a conversation in which she will become attracted to you.

Role playing, Games, Transitioning

Once you are in a conversation with a women it is up to you to guide it. Remember to keep everything playful and fun, not challenging and too direct. Use the following techniques to make her want to engage you further.

• Use fun nicknames such as Cocker spaniel, snuffulufugus, pumpkin butt- this really builds a sense of ‘history’ with a person quick.
• Jokingly misinterpret what she says.
  Example:

  Her: I’m going shopping in a little

  You: oh thanks I’m a 32 regular…either true religion or lucky brand jeans will work.. you are so thoughtful…:) lol

  If she agrees with you about something, reply by saying something like:

  you don’t have to try and impress me girly…jeeze! Haha

  If she replies negatively by saying something like:

  I wasn’t trying to impress you.

  You can respond by saying something like:

  Woah woah miss fiesty pants… I’m going shopping later.. want me to pick you up a sense of humor? I think they are on sale… lol

Heres an example of how to transition into role playing

Disney Princess

You: So apparently most girls have a similar personality as their favorite disney princess… so which is your fav?

Now assume she says Tinker bell. This gives you an opportunity to tease her a little bit. Here’s how:

I would have picked something more like Belle from beauty and the beast for you…i mean you do seem kinda like a nerd…although a yellow dress would be pretty cute on ya….

I guess with your wings and the pixie dust we could save a lot on air travel.. we can go to Venice and enjoy a gondola ride … best part is I can put you in my pocket.

Too bad that i’d have to break up with you though since apparently fairies are alcoholics…I had no idea?!

Note: now she is imagining her self spending time with you, you are showing again that you have standards, and you are really displaying a good sense of humor.

• Use statements like “wait until you hear my answer” after you ask her a question or post a fun quiz for her to take.
• Post a fun comment on her pictures.For example, if she has a bunch of pictures all dressed up and one of her puppy or cat, only post on the picture of the pet and say something like
  

  i’m not sure, but there is something different about you in this one..lol

• Prepare her to meet you if she hasn’t already asked too. Do this by “seeding the invite”. Decide on something to invite her to and ask her about related things about the event she is guaranteed to say yes too.
  For example, if you were going to invite her to a Comedy Club ask her:

  Do you like drinks, good company, having fun, and laughing so hard you pee your pants? but please… don’t actually pee your pants… thats just gross.. lol

  She will most likely say yes to all of those things, and will be less likely to say NO when you invite her to somewhere that includes all of those things… aka the Comedy club. Note: When you do actually send the invite you want to be sure you are inviting her to something that you will be doing with or with out her, and with several of your buddies.

• End your messages with “gotta go” and a short fun reason why such as:
  

  gotta run, my friends and I are going to the turtle races… so fun…!




Cheers guys!


Kelly




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Be Different, Be noticed, Be heard

Is what women say they want and what actually drives them wild different? Yes. Keep in mind that you need to be sensitive to what someone says they want, but also know that for the most part people have no idea for what reason or why they act or react certain ways.

As every man knows women are built around a complex system of feelings that is ever changing based on their current situation. Women, for the most part, act and respond to things according to how they feel at that moment. As a man you are expected to be able to read and interpret those signals properly. The sad truth though is that most men are completely out of sync with what to look for and how to react.

There is a definite art to interacting with women and you must be willing to LEARN and practice this art form. If you are not familiar with a particular sport, then how are you supposed to know what rules to follow and when to shoot for the score? The same holds true with women. You have to know when to push certain buttons, how to react when a women presses certain buttons in you, and how to shoot for the ’score’.

Aside from their unique differences most women are wired in a similar way. There are certain key factors that you can use to almost completely shape how you want any particular women to feel about you. Half is putting out the right signals, the other half is reading and responding correctly to her signals.This can as subtle as her flipping her hair and sometimes as obvious as her taking you by the hand.

KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE!
When you meet a new person there are many things about their physical appearance and choice of words that can clue you into to their moral and social boundaries. For instance, a 25 year old women dressed modestly and talking conservatively is going to have more boundaries than a 30 year old telling a dirty joke (depending on the situation of course). As obvious as that sounds, you have to keep in mind that most indicators are much more subtle than that example.

You are expected to know where the line of ‘acceptable’ is with a person from the get go. How the hell are you supposed to know that? You need to use social tactics to find that line and playfully ‘dance’ around it. By doing this she automatically will allow a slightly ‘crazier/wilder’ side of her personality out and because you brought it out of her, she will appreciate your company.

BE AN ACTIVE PART OF THE CONVERSATION.
People hate being a part of a conversation with a person who doesn’t know how to answer questions with useful info, or ask things to keep it moving forward. Help the conversation have that natural free flowing “we have chemistry” feeling by answering questions playfully, and asking fun questions-not the typical,”what do you do for a living”. Don’t be a social robot. Talk about what ever random things pop into your head, and do it with flair. Be in the moment and really listen. She will give you all the information you need to keep the conversation moving forward.


BREAK HER OUT OF AUTOPILOT
You know that guy at the bar, party or friendly gathering that everyone is having so much fun around? That can be you.
The question is how do you break out of being boring? Here is an example of boring:

In Person

Quote:

You: Hello Her: Hi, how are you You: I’m fine, and you.. Her: ( she’s already bored and wondering if you actually have anything interesting to say) Blah blah blah boring…

Online

Quote:

You: Hi there, I really liked your profile, just wanted to say hi Her: - no responce-

At least in person she is socially expected to at least go through a typical greeting. Online is no such story. There is no social pressure compelling her to respond to you.

Your goal in any social situation (online included) should be to break people out of their boring autopilot conversations. We all hate them, yet some how we forget we are half the reason the conversation is boring. Just as anything goes in life, don’t ever expect people to do it for you. You need to be the one that directs the conversation and interactions you are in with both MEN and WOMEN. Don’t sit back and wonder why you constantly are in conversations that you could care less about. Help make them interesting. Use big body language, make fun of your self if you fumble over a word, and equally poke fun at someone who does the same. For instance, if a person stutters or fumbles over a word (on accident, not because of a speech impediment) Tease them by saying, “you’d think with all these years of experience.. you’d be better at this talking thing…hahaha ” and of course smile and keep it light hearted.

If somebody reverts back to ’standard issue questions’ what do you do? Even though they asked the boring questions, it is up to YOU to direct it to your desired outcome…

Example:

Quote:

Standard Question : “So how have you been?” Not so standard answer: “Well ever since dragons ate my baby Jesus figurine I’m not sure where my life is headed…But don’t worry about me.. I’ll be fine…” Note: pretty much act overly serious when saying it and be sure to smile and laugh afterwards. Standard Question: “How are you?” Not so standard Answer: “TERRIBLE” Note: Again, say it with a with a serious look on your face but almost immediately follow it with, “no I’m just kidding.. How you doing?” By doing this you immediate force them to turn off their automated response system.

Now when they answer with “I’m fine”

Quote:

Your reply: “Jeeze you are just full of your self aren’t you” Playfully imitate her and say” I’m fine” As you jokingly pretend to flip your hair…and follow it with a laugh.. Or “I asked how you are, not how you look…” follow with a laugh, and push to the next conversational thread Standard question: “What have you been up to lately?” Not so Standard Answer: “Well after I rescued that flock of baby sheep last week, I’ve been collecting Chuck Norris jokes… do you know any? Check these out…”

She will almost undoubtedly ask for one, but if not… just roll into them and tell her a 2 or 3

Here are a few Chuck Norris jokes…

* Did you know Chuck Norris invented the giraffe….. Yeah he did it by [upper cutting a horse…
* You know superman wears Chuck Norris pajama’s when he goes to bed…
* Chuck Norris’ tears cure cancer, too bad he’s never cried.
* Chuck Norris doesn’t sleep he waits

After you tell her a joke or two you can playfully tease her by saying:

Quote:

“You know, if chuck shaved off his beard, and put on a little make up… you two would look like sisters… hahaha” Be sure to be in playful tone, be laughing after you say it and playfully punch them on the arm. Follow it up with “no.. no… he’d be like the ugly step sister…you do look like you’d have a fierce roundhouse kick though.. hahaha”

NOTE: take into consideration whether or not the jokes you are telling her are something that she is familiar with so that the jokes actually make since. Change subjects if she isnt responding positively to the humor.

Make sure when you are joking around that you are slightly overly dramatic. When you are supposed to be serious, be overly serious then immediately flip to big smiles and laughter following the jokes or teasing insults you are giving. Keep in mind if she is not laughing or responding positively, you should probably try to cue into what her reasoning is for being distant. Are you being too pushy, leaning into close, is she having a terrible day, did both of her parents die earlier making love in a cable car over the baltic sea? lol Let her body language spell out for you what she needs. You never know what somebody is dealing with in their life currently... Just be aware, and through that situational awareness make shit happen!

Kelly
Song_bird

PS

An after thought to this post...

If men need strategy to 'pickup' or meet women in there early 20's then as women age and have endured more and more 'pickup' attempts they are definitely waiting for exactly what I listed in this thread. BREAKING HER OUT OF AUTOPILOT is exactly what she needs.

If you have read some of my other posts one of the biggest thing I advocate is diversity in your personality and actions. Your goal as a person should be to have a three dimensional personality and a diversity in as many elements about you as you can. This will only improve your life as well as increase your abilities with women. Actually go and do fun things, create cool stories, have cool pictures. Dont only do things to 'pickup' women, do for your self to for god's sake...

Serious moments are great and memorable only if they stand out from differences in your interactions with her. Your impression of being silly, fun, or jovial being immature is a great limiting belief to have. A women wants you to make her laugh. Men need to set there desire to be the cool guy aside, go out have fun, make people laugh, be silly at moments, and then you actually will be the cool guy rather than the wannabe cool guy standing on the wall alone, or worse with 3 or four other wannabe cool guys.

When you are using humor or delivering a new joke to a gal alot of it is in the delivery. It is sometimes even more effective to be super-serious in nature when telling the joke in the middle of a serious conversation... It all just helps multi thread the conversation... (starting 4 or 5 different conversational threads and going back and forth between them...creates the feeling of-"i feel like we have so much to talk about")


Hope that clarifies it a little better...

Kelly

www.SocialRockstar.net